Agreeing To Part - The Uncontested Divorce

This is fast becoming the major trend in the UK. It is on the rise in the USA too, but not to the extent it is in this country. The picture is mixed in Europe, France being the country with the largest number of couples fighting their way to a highly contested court case and emotionally charged divorces. Does this mean that the British people are surpassing examples of matured and calm understanding when it comes to divorce? Not necessarily, but it does mean that law cases costs a fair bit here, and few are in the position to afford it. Uncontested divorces have become so very popular precisely because the very areas of conflict that are causing the divorce had been resolved as far as possible between the partners before they came to the court. When the areas of conflict are eliminated, there remains little left to do except finish the paperwork and formalities.

Advantages of Uncontested Divorces

There are several direct and indirect advantages of this form of divorce, which have been listed below:

• There is scope to cut costs in a major way. A court battle is not the only thing that requires expenditure, but a lot of money is wasted when a couple fights, and misses out on work, therefore, being unable to earn as they normally do. It is time that costs most, in very literal terms.


• The need to go to a lawyer and spend for it rises only when there are issues into which a lawyer needs to look into. The necessity of calling in a lawyer at all arises only when there are unresolved conflicts between the two parties. If both partners realise that dragging it out in painful and bitter detail will only hamper their work and empty their purses, then there is little need to fear for a situation when the expenses are spiralling out of control.


• Saving time is a major issue, not just where the lawyer or office working hours are concerned. The faster the two partners see reason and agree, they would be able to get the divorce process started. Even a slimmed down DIY will take a minimum number of days if a divorce is to be obtained according to the given laws of the land, where provision has been made for gaps between crucial stages not just to give some time to the court to prepare the papers, but also to let the couple think it over before taking the next step. If everything else except processing the papers is already done beforehand, it is possible to finish the divorce in exactly the minimum time as stated in the law books.


• The emotional toll on both parties is much less in the case of uncontested divorces. It is bad enough they need to part forever, but there is no need to make it worse by screaming and fighting and storming out at each other. At the end of the day, we are human beings, all of us have a bit of good and bad in us, yes, and even the man or woman with whom your partner is having an affair is not an entire villain. The most silently suffering spouse is not entirely saintly either. If we cooperate with each other on the grounds of common humanity, leaving some space for our frailties and some respect for our opinions, the world, maybe, not turn better, but it would be easier to sleep at night. The small mercies that we show each other at times of crisis are the true measures of our humanity. This is not poetry, it is plain hard common sense, and helps to save a few pounds too.


• It is definitely much easier on children if a divorce is uncontested. The greatest victim of the battle between a pair of adults is often the child who has no fault at all, but on whom both parties vent their frustrations. In the process, they scar an entire generation for life, and it is simply unfair. There is no way to justify the suffering of children for their parents’ follies. Our country is already full of unhappy kids; we don’t need to add to the number.
  

James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. For more information on getting a Divorce see http://www.quickie-divorce.com

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